常看别人的好,自己会更好

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生活中,当你体会「常看到别人的好,自己会更好」的道理,相信你的人生会愈来愈顺遂,日子也会过得愈来愈甜美,因为当你看到别人的好,就是自己心灵的反射,能够对别人说出来,很多的话都会再传回来,或传到当事人的耳里。由于你的赞扬,会拉近你和众人距离,增温彼此的友谊关系,日子会过得好,是必然的结果

多看别人长处

我有一位「常看到别人的好」的可爱女同事,每件让人觉得棘手的事,到她手里都会变得稀松平常,不管别人对她说出讽刺的话语,她都能幽默以对,以超人的智慧化解尴尬,遇到一些吃亏的事,她也不以为意,有些不讨喜的同事,她也可以相处得很好,谈笑风生,安适自在。

与她闲聊后,才知道原来她的相处原则,常看别人长处,忽略短处,「与人为善,贴心为人,做些令人窝心的事」,应该是她获得好人缘的主因。

勇往直前不停歇

另一位喜欢运动的高中同学,不管哪个同学跟她说是非,她都不会再传话,因她觉得每个人各有长处,「缺点谁没有,女生之间偶尔嚼舌根是正常的事,不要放在心上」,有时在班上遇到做事推诿的人,她都会默默完成。由于她做事少一根筋,经常闹出无伤大雅的笑话,还被封为本班开心果。

这位女同学把可爱的优点带着嫁为人妇,同样也获得夫家人的喜爱。多年前她加入跑步团体,每天不断地练跑,激发喜欢运动的潜能,每当她到各地去参加马拉松跑步比赛时,女同学勇往直前不停歇的精神让人叹服,看到她走过之处,都有许多爱好运动者向她招手并闲聊运动战绩时,我也深感荣幸。我问她保持活力,开心自在的魅力来自于何方?她只淡淡地说:「别无秘诀,我只是比较会看到别人的好。」

适时给予赞赏

我也经常看见别人的好,才会和这些磁场相近的人成为好友。对某个人不爽时,对方的所有言行看在眼里,听在耳里都不会是美声,反而会让人感受到厌恶。后来我会改变心态,「再怎么让人讨厌的人,还是会有优点,只要用他的长处,看他的优点就好,其余的不必看得太清楚。」

有了这些明确的导引,我渐渐学会看别人的长处,也用心体会别人的好,更不吝于在别人表现良好时给予适时赞赏,当你释出善意,用心营造幸福,你会发现幸福就在你身边

本文撷取自: 自由时报 – 副刊   文/奇异果

原文网址:http://news.ltn.com.tw/news/supplement/paper/856731



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