常看別人的好,自己會更好

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生活中,當你體會「常看到別人的好,自己會更好」的道理,相信你的人生會愈來愈順遂,日子也會過得愈來愈甜美,因為當你看到別人的好,就是自己心靈的反射,能夠對別人說出來,很多的話都會再傳回來,或傳到當事人的耳裡。由於你的讚揚,會拉近你和眾人距離,增溫彼此的友誼關係,日子會過得好,是必然的結果

多看別人長處

我有一位「常看到別人的好」的可愛女同事,每件讓人覺得棘手的事,到她手裡都會變得稀鬆平常,不管別人對她說出諷刺的話語,她都能幽默以對,以超人的智慧化解尷尬,遇到一些吃虧的事,她也不以為意,有些不討喜的同事,她也可以相處得很好,談笑風生,安適自在。

與她閒聊後,才知道原來她的相處原則,常看別人長處,忽略短處,「與人為善,貼心為人,做些令人窩心的事」,應該是她獲得好人緣的主因。

勇往直前不停歇

另一位喜歡運動的高中同學,不管哪個同學跟她說是非,她都不會再傳話,因她覺得每個人各有長處,「缺點誰沒有,女生之間偶爾嚼舌根是正常的事,不要放在心上」,有時在班上遇到做事推諉的人,她都會默默完成。由於她做事少一根筋,經常鬧出無傷大雅的笑話,還被封為本班開心果。

這位女同學把可愛的優點帶著嫁為人婦,同樣也獲得夫家人的喜愛。多年前她加入跑步團體,每天不斷地練跑,激發喜歡運動的潛能,每當她到各地去參加馬拉松跑步比賽時,女同學勇往直前不停歇的精神讓人嘆服,看到她走過之處,都有許多愛好運動者向她招手並閒聊運動戰績時,我也深感榮幸。我問她保持活力,開心自在的魅力來自於何方?她只淡淡地說:「別無秘訣,我只是比較會看到別人的好。」

適時給予讚賞

我也經常看見別人的好,才會和這些磁場相近的人成為好友。對某個人不爽時,對方的所有言行看在眼裡,聽在耳裡都不會是美聲,反而會讓人感受到厭惡。後來我會改變心態,「再怎麼讓人討厭的人,還是會有優點,只要用他的長處,看他的優點就好,其餘的不必看得太清楚。」

有了這些明確的導引,我漸漸學會看別人的長處,也用心體會別人的好,更不吝於在別人表現良好時給予適時讚賞,當你釋出善意,用心營造幸福,你會發現幸福就在你身邊

本文擷取自: 自由時報 – 副刊   文/奇異果

原文網址:http://news.ltn.com.tw/news/supplement/paper/856731



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